Xenophobia is defined at Wikipedia as ďan unreasonable fear or hatred of foreigners or strangers, or of that which is foreign or strange."
My sense is that we are all xenophobic. We are all wary of new people, new things and ideas that, though proven by research to be effective means to improve bottom lines, financially and in every other aspect of life, we are too afraid to let go of our inflexibility and invulnerability to try something new.
Itís not uncommon for those who experience xenophobia to fear losing their roles, their positions and identity. We can be suspicious of other peopleís activities and sometime be aggressive; desiring the elimination of the otherís presence in order to secure a presumed state of stability. What this does is supports a foundation built on worry and anxiety, which is an unstable platform upon which to build a survival strategy; it will topple under the slightest tremor.
Even with global economic and environmental instability pressing down on us to face what could be the extinction of our economic system or, worse yet, the extinction of our species, we are too
Updated 03-07-2014 at 03:24 PM by RosieKuhn
As a teacher, facilitator and coach, I encourage my students to immerse themselves in a self-study program that allows them to fully realize who they are Ė that their security, stability and function in the world has nothing to do with what they believe to be true Ė only what they know to be true. The only way to know who you are is to dismantle your current belief system, to individuate and to differentiate yourself from everything you think yourself to be, do and have. You have to experience the truth to realize the truth. And, you have to experience it personally before you can live it, teach it or coach others to experience it.
As daunting as this sounds, to immerse yourself in a self-study program in spirituality, there is a way to see this that perhaps could have it seem more engaging than overwhelming. I was thinking the other day about language immersion courses, where if you want to learn a language Ė letís say Chinese, you go to China and expose yourself to the language, the people and the culture. By doing so you free yourself from referring incessantly to the limited perceptions that tether you to what you believe
Updated 03-05-2014 at 04:08 PM by RosieKuhn
Iíve been thinking about this blog for a while, specifically the intention I had in mind Ė what I wanted to convey regarding our will. The third step of the Twelve Step Program came to mind:
We turn our will over to the care of a higher power as we understand it
(The original version is: We made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God, as we understand him. Quite often, people are turned off by the religious components of the twelve steps, so I am paraphrasing in order to hopefully make this more palatable).
What I realized was that throughout our lifetimes, weíve turned our will over to higher powers many times. From the time we take our first breath we turn our will over to our parents, teachers, coaches; we turn it over to our employers, our lovers and sometimes our children. We turn it over for the purpose of physical survival as well as emotional, spiritual and economic survival. We turn our lives and our will over to those who require respect and authority over us. As a consequence, we often learn to choose disempowering interpretations about ourselves and our lives; we learn
Updated 03-03-2014 at 06:31 PM by RosieKuhn
You must have seen it coming: after all of these weeks Ö
From the moment we are born we are vulnerable to Ė well, to everything. Very quickly, and as best we can we begin to tap into strategies that keep us invulnerable to starvation for nourishment and nurturing. We begin to calculate Ėdeveloping strategic ways to get what we need and perhaps what we want. Our parents can tell a cry that means a diaper needs changing from a cry that says Iím hungry. We learn very quickly how to take care of the situation and minimize vulnerability.
As calculating as we can be, there comes a moment when we are whacked upside the head with the proverbial 2◊4, which knocks us senseless and into an even more shrewd way of being in order to avoid any further vulnerability. We continually build on this until weíve well established, what Tracy Goss calls, our winning strategy. She calls it a winning strategy because it keeps you winning at getting what you want, when you want; until it doesnít. At some point it becomes clear that this winning strategy limits whatís possible and though you remain invulnerable, which seems like a good
Updated 02-28-2014 at 05:28 PM by RosieKuhn
Michael, a COO of a growing startup in Austin, Texas, is a great guy and a brilliant thinker. Heís been hired by a particular company to bring about a turnaround in management and inevitably the bottom line. The company has experienced a significant loss in revenue over the past few months and itís now Michaelís job to turn things around. If he fails, the company will fold Ė end of story.
Michael is about to take the company in a direction that will transform its vision, culture and business structure. Thereís no doubt he has what it takes to create this turnaround. However, heís challenged and stopped with every step he takes. For instance, yesterday he received a memo from his CEO that states all unnecessary expenditures will be cut. There goes any actualization of executive team off-sites to thoroughly discuss and implement whatís required to make this company work.
Michael is stymied and feels like his hands are tied! He is out to rescue the company. Thatís what heís been hired to do. Since joining four months ago, heís been exploring the underlying foundation upon which to rebuild. He doesnít want to push
Updated 02-26-2014 at 04:03 PM by RosieKuhn
When is an act of love not an act of love? Its when that act is attached to personal gain.
I love my friend Harry. In this moment, I want to stop him from doing something very foolish and could be life-threatening. Yet, what Iím experiencing isnít founded on love. Itís found on a need to gain control and to experience self-righteousness regarding my assumption that Harry doesnít know better than to choose what heís about to choose, and that I know better than him. I question my motives in this moment and find myself wanting. The question is: What am I wanting?
Telling Harry to do it differently would alleviate my frustration, which arises from, literally, being powerless and helpless in the face of his decisions. My choosing to choose to intervene is founded on a need to correct the experience within me. And, if that is so, how is this an expression of love? Iím discovering that what I am wanting is to gain an absence of discomfort Ė a restless, irritable discontent. This has nothing to do with love.
In this moment, Iím exploring the contents of this restless, irritable, discontent, and what I uncover is anger, grief and powerlessness.
Updated 02-22-2014 at 07:56 PM by RosieKuhn
I love the word ubiquitous. Itís got big energy. It has a quality of being that is bigger than, more expansive and universal in nature. It means everywhere, ever present, all pervading omnipresent, universal. So yes, this does describe that aspect of spirituality in business that Iím wanting to capture Ė that quality of presence that is always and everywhere: Itís pervasive in grace and glory and its capacity to transform business is beyond the beyond.
Look at all of the writings on leadership and business practices that intend to provide more effective, more prosperous practices for corporations, business, investors and employees. Everyone is looking for that magic pill, the big BANG that will transfigure our current circumstance to outstanding results. Anyone willing to engage the ubiquitous and the universal? Not many people are. Its takes moxy, chutzpah, courage and bravery and the willingness to put everything on the line. You are facing the death of your identity, as youíve known yourself to be. You are taking the leap with vision and compelling intention Ė thereís no stopping you when you are this committed, but are you?
Updated 02-18-2014 at 08:20 PM by RosieKuhn
To state the obvious, thereís no question we are living in turbulent times. The winds of change are creating upheaval and instability, leaving chaos and confusion in its wake. The almighty dollar upon which weíve built just about all of our institutions, including religion, as well as a sense of security and stability is rocking and rolling like those areas around the planet that are experiencing earthquakes. Everything is getting shaken up.
In the workplace, job security is getting to be a bankrupt concept. And, if you manage to keep your job, most likely youíve taken on the work of those who have lost theirs. More stress and fewer fulfillment.
Naomi, a client of mine in San Francisco used to love going to work every morning. Now, with a new CEO pressuring the very small staff to produce way beyond their capability, the strain is such that she experiences overwhelm, frustration and, what we normally call depression. ďWhatís the point?Ē Naomi asks, rhetorically. ďI used to love my work, but now Iím thinking of leaving. Itís all too much?Ē
As a sailor who crossed the Atlantic Ocean, I could see
Updated 02-15-2014 at 12:12 PM by RosieKuhn
I canít tell you the number of times Iíve manipulated people I love in the name of love. I did so because I believed I had something to gain, and something to lose. Itís a model of love based on ownership, property, and the getting and taking model of reality. Its fear-based. And, strategizing instilled a sense of invulnerability in me, if I can make a belief that I love and am loved by someone, even though it doesnít really feel that way, well, its better than experiencing the reality of being unloved. Who am I, or what am I, if Iím not loved?
I chose this particular strategy Ė probably before I was five years old, because I experienced the danger of having it be the other way. As I looked around my little world Ė my reality, I came to interpret that it wasnít enough to be love. I had to prove my worthiness to God through words and actions. This was true regarding all my relations, teachers, priests, mom and dad, siblings Ė everyone!
Eight brothers and sisters vying for love and attention from parents Ė competition for MVP Ė most valuable person, was the set up long before my arrival on the planet. Being child
Updated 02-09-2014 at 05:50 PM by RosieKuhn
I grew up in Michigan in a large Catholic Family in the 50ís and 60ís. I was taught that sacrifice was the price you paid to get into heaven. In service to this I let go of my wants, needs, thoughts and feelings. What I was left with when I hit my 30ís was pretty much an empty shell of a being and became, to some extent robotic Ė exclusively looking outside myself for commands for me to follow. I was terrified to think, feel or act on my own volition. Having never been given a copy of the blue prints or the How To Manual for being me, I had no idea what course to steer to get to my true north. Over decades I taught myself how to listen to my internal wisdom and practiced checking inside myself, retracing my steps (from before I could even walk) to rediscover my fullest expression of myself.
In the name of Heaven we make incredible sacrifices. The question is Ė what is Heaven? More importantly in the context of this series, what is Heaven to you? How will you know when youíve arrived?
Given that we are talking most specifically about spirituality in the business, I suspect that each one of us has maneuvered into
Updated 02-07-2014 at 09:56 AM by RosieKuhn
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