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    1. Categories:
    2. Ontology,
    3. Transformation
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    Leaders aren’t made by titles, position, and prestige; they are made by the choices they make at points in their career, which in the moment seem to have nothing to do with becoming a leader. It has only to do with current situations throwing curve balls in their direction, requiring them to make choices that are in the highest good of the company and in their own highest good as well.

    Let’s say that the company you work for is challenged on many fronts. They are not fulfilling agreements made, which initially enticed you to join the organization. You still believe in the product and service, but no longer trust the competence of the leaders to generate what’s required for success to be yours. Given the current state of the situation, you feel powerless to make a difference for ...
    by Published on 01-29-2014 08:55 AM  Number of Views: 1186 
    1. Categories:
    2. Sociology,
    3. Self Help,
    4. Happiness,
    5. Life Purpose,
    6. Men,
    7. Teenagers,
    8. Work-Life Balance,
    9. Anxiety,
    10. Consciousness,
    11. Transitions,
    12. Transpersonal,
    13. Indigenous Practices,
    14. Transformation,
    15. Education,
    16. Rituals,
    17. Practices,
    18. Stress
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    A Psychological Framework of the Phenomenon

    For more than a decade, there has been a sharp increase in the number of individuals in their twenties and thirties who are experiencing an existential crisis. They have reported feeling extreme anxiety and confusion about their life.
    Common symptoms include:
    • Depression
    • Anxiety
    • Questioning the deeper meaning of life
    • Not being clear about their adult identity
    • Wanting a sense of purpose

    I define the quarterlife crisis as an existential crisis that is experienced by individuals in early adulthood. The quarterlife crisis is not an early midlife crisis. A person facing his or her own mortality usually triggers a midlife crisis. ...
    by Published on 01-02-2014 02:48 PM  Number of Views: 107 
    1. Categories:
    2. Team Building,
    3. Org Development,
    4. Work-Life Balance,
    5. Consciousness
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    What is the best way to ensure employees and teams succeed? Some executives and managers praise, encourage, let people work at their own pace and time, let them work in their own ways, and from time to time make gentle suggestions for improvement.

    Others say this is “soft,” “touchy-feely." They direct people firmly, or ride them, or tell them exactly what to do, or chastise or punish errors or falling behind, or compare people unfavorably with colleagues, or use favoritism as carrot-and-stick. Some use do these without realizing it.

    Is the first approach soft? Do any of the second ones work?

    What we now know about the brain tells us about both approaches. The brain is hard-wired to turn off creativity and intuition if the brain senses danger ...
    by Published on 12-22-2013 09:12 PM  Number of Views: 105 
    1. Categories:
    2. Relationships,
    3. Change Mgmt,
    4. Couples,
    5. Family,
    6. Men,
    7. Parents,
    8. Women,
    9. Work-Life Balance,
    10. Transitions,
    11. Children
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    We’ve heard it time and again: Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus. But how true is this sentiment?

    Esteemed psychologists Jean Baker Miller and sociologist Carol Gilligan—who were at the forefront of gender studies in the 70s and 80s—conducted a number of studies to examine the fundamental differences between men and women. Their results revealed striking differences between the genders, particularly in terms of how women and men react to crises: Women are much more prone to respond with compassion by immediately assisting those who have been injured despite personal risk, while men initially respond by setting their emotions aside, assessing the situation, and looking for ways to reach concrete results. Ultimately, it was discovered, women favor cooperation ...
    by Published on 11-15-2013 11:55 AM
    1. Categories:
    2. Family,
    3. Parents,
    4. Teenagers,
    5. Work-Life Balance,
    6. Education,
    7. Stress
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    Recently, I wrote about the price women pay in the pursuit of perfection; today, I’m here to discuss the escalating pressure our children face the moment they step foot in high school.

    The New York Times recently published a piece on Debora Spar, the President of Barnard College and the author of Wonder Women: Sex, Power, and the Quest for Perfection. Spar describes the incoming students she sees as “exhausted. The pressure in high school is killing these kids. By the time they get to college, they have been fighting for three or four years to get the perfect SAT scores and get into A.P. classes.”

    I know this all too well. Most parents of teenagers and young adults do. My daughter Isabella attended a prestigious, competitive high school ...
    by Published on 10-31-2013 04:12 PM
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    The self-improvement business is booming. Videos, books, classes, teleseminars, newsletters, gyms, get-away weekends: the opportunities to improve yourself are endless. Whether it’s diet, fitness, attractiveness, ability to make money, relationships, or sexual skills, there is a myriad of offerings at all price points.

    People are caught up in the self-improvement business, but nobody seems to ask: what are we improving ourselves for? The promise is more happiness, and to a certain extent, becoming healthy, affluent, and more able to have better relationships will make you happier.

    But after we are healthy enough, affluent enough, and have decent relationships, the danger is that all this continuing work on ourselves serves to increase our egotism. ...
    by Published on 10-16-2013 01:28 PM
    1. Categories:
    2. Self Help,
    3. Work-Life Balance
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    When we’re in the throes of despair or swamped with negative thoughts, it’s tremendously difficult to realize that we possess the power to alter our outlook and our approach to problems.

    Allow me to tell you two short anecdotes to illustrate this.

    A man has a new picture he’d like to hang on the wall of his flat. He has a nail, but no hammer. He decides to ask his neighbor if he can borrow his, but then recalls how his neighbor greeted him the day before. He’d been reserved, even callous. The man reviews several instances in which his neighbor had been rude to others, from refusing to loan the woman downstairs an egg to ignoring people he passed by in the hall. He considers what he could have possibly done to his neighbor to have made him ...
    by Published on 09-29-2013 07:14 PM  Number of Views: 139 
    1. Categories:
    2. Life Purpose,
    3. Women,
    4. Spiritual Emergence,
    5. Transformation
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    Midlife often arrives without fair warning, and it’s fraught with anxiety for many. Existential questions that demand to be answered trouble us. Empty nest syndrome plagues us. Physical changes ask us to reevaluate our health, while our satisfaction with the profession we’ve had for decades might lose its luster. Transitioning from one phase of life to the next feels cumbersome and overwhelming, and can lead to depression, angst, and illness.

    Midlife transitions are particularly challenging for women in Western cultures who have dedicated their adult lives to childrearing. Why? Individuals in Eastern societies are encouraged to meditate and pray from an early age, two forms of self-care that lead to enlightenment and promote inner strength in the face of adversity. In ...
    by Published on 09-23-2013 07:37 PM
    1. Categories:
    2. Couples
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    Reconnecting to our partners after Baby.

    Boy meets Girl. The two fall in love. They get married, have a child. The love that brought them together in the first place only intensifies with the birth of this child they’ve created. They live happily ever after.

    Ahh, how nice it would be if it were only that simple. It is beautiful when being in love brings forth a child and two people become a family, but it’s wishful thinking to imagine that that child won’t impact the couple’s relationship in huge and unforeseen ways. Having a child greatly impacts many aspects of a relationship, including how we feel about ourselves, our partner, our sensuality, our bodies, our future. All sorts of issues and fears come up: our own unresolved childhood issues, body image ...
    by Published on 09-14-2013 03:52 PM
    1. Categories:
    2. Relationships,
    3. Couples
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    Love is good, right? So… more love is better?

    The quick answer might be yes. But then, it gets complicated. And yet, how can something as elemental as love ever be complicated? Actually, it can’t. Read on.

    Have you ever had the feeling that someone loves you too much?
    Think about it. You get a rush of enthusiastic, passionate affection hoisted upon you and it turns you off. What is that? How can love repel us when love is the ultimate elixir? And yet, when it comes at you fast and furious, on occasion, the guard goes up. You think, “If only they would chill.”

    And then there’s the other side of it. Think back to a time when you dared to pour your heart out or bent over backwards to please someone, only to be rebuffed? Ouch. When your ...

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