|Seven Tips for Quieting Your Inner Critic|
Lauretta Zucchetti, MA
It never leaves me alone.
Wherever I go, no matter what I do or what time of the year it is, it is always by my side, ordering, nagging, criticizing, scolding, disapproving and ultimately making my life miserable.
If I work, I am not working hard enough. If I relax, I am told I shouldn’t. If I travel, I am bound to take my computer along and always perform some kind of daily tasks. If I sleep, I ought to wake up early so I can get more done.
I am talking about my most inner, most critical voice, that nasty gremlin that showed up in my early teens and took up permanent residence inside of me. It is as extolling as a slave owner, as haughty as a prima donna, as incessant in its screaming as a broken record.
After years and years of living with it, I decided to do anything to get rid of my uninvited guest. I sought help and looked for solutions.
What I found is that most of us, humans, have it. Whether it is because our families told us we were not enough, or treated us as if we weren’t, or, in my case, out of ignorance beat me into a pulp and told me how dumb I was, the fact is that most individuals carry an internal self-critic who won’t leave them alone. If the culture in which we live is also one of demanding people to perform all the time, as the industrialized cultures tend to be, then we are in for some real challenges.
I’d like to share a few key principles and tips about this roommate of ours and how to tame it:
- No matter how we feel about yourself and were it comes from, realize that it is only through mistakes that you are going to learn anything. Kudos to you for erring and correcting your path.
After many years of battling my enslaving force within, I am now able to prevail over it. When the guilty feeling or the impulse to throw myself at frenzied activities arise, I shush the accompanying comments by way of reminding myself that mistakes are good and that I can’t possibly do more if I don’t rest and enjoy myself first.
You should try it. It works!
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